Breaking the Silence: Why Domestic Violence Awareness Month Matters

    October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month- a time to shine a light on a crisis that thrives in silence. For me, this month is deeply personal. I'm not just writing as an advocate- I'm writing as someone who has lived through it. And I'm here to say: we are not victims. We are survivors. 

    Domestic violence is not always visible. It doesn't always come with bruises or broken bones. Sometimes it's the quiet manipulation, the emotional erosion, the constant fear of saying the wrong thing. It can be psychological, sexual, financial, or digital. It can look like isolation from friends and family, control over your phone or finances, or relentless criticism that makes you question your worth. It can be subtle, disguised as love or concern. And it can be loud- filled with threats, intimidation, and violence. 

    I've lived through it. I know what it feels like to be trapped in a cycle of fear and confusion, to wonder if you're overreacting, to convince yourself that things will get better. 

That's the insidious nature of abuse- it makes you doubt your instincts while convincing the world that everything is fine. 

    That's why Domestic Violence Awareness Month is so important. It's not just about statistics- it's about stories. It's about educating people on what domestic violence really looks like, so they can recognize it in their own lives or in the lives of others. It's about breaking the stigma and replacing judgement with compassion. It's about giving survivors the space to speak, to heal, and to reclaim their power. 

    The signs of domestic violence are often misunderstood or ignored. Feeling like you're walking on eggshells. Being cut off from loved ones. Having no access to money or personal devices. Being belittled, manipulated, or made to feel small. These are not just red flags- they're cries for help. And recognizing them can be the first step toward safety and healing. 

    If you're in a situation like this, please know you are not alone. There is help. There is hope. There are people who will believe you, support you, and walk with you toward freedom. And if you're someone who wants to help, start by listening. Don't ask why they stayed- ask how you can support them now. 

    And please, call us survivors. Not victims. "Victim" implies defeat, but surviving domestic violence takes unimaginable strength. It's a fight for freedom, for dignity, for life. Every person who has endured abuse and found a way forward deserves to be honored for their resilience. 

    This month, I speak not just for myself, but for every survivor who's still finding their voice. For every person who's still trapped in silence. For every soul who needs to hear that they are worthy of love, safety, and peace. 

    We are not victims. We are survivors. And we are never alone.